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Dating, love, Relationships
It’s been a long time since we’ve last chatted. My goodness has it! We won’t talk about how long, let’s just move on shall we? So in my attempts to make the world of dating a better place, I am spreading a little dating advice for my ladies (sorry guys, I will have another post for you in the near future. Stay tuned!) Having been married for 10 years with two kids a house and dog (yea that part right there), and spending time out here in the dating world in today’s time, I have found that the way people go about dating these days has DRASTICALLY changed. Gone are the days of batting your eyes, glancing his way a couple of times, laughing at his jokes and telling his friends how awesome you think he is in order to let him know you’re interested. No my friends, we now have the side piece, call me shorty, friend with benefits, marriage is a business dating era. And as crazy as it may sound, I actually sympathize with any woman who has been in any of these titles. Why? Because often times the reason she even allowed herself to become subjected to this type of treatment, was mainly due to the lack of healing she did not gain from previous relationships. So the cycle continues and unfortunately leaves the woman who “just wants to find a good guy” stuck with a DUD! So what is a DUD? Thanks to my big brother, I have grown very fond of acronyms. So out of my dating experience I have deemed the DUD to be a Drastically Underdeveloped Date. Now before you go having a conniption fit, let me explain what I mean by drastically underdeveloped.  Let’s take a little word stroll: 1.      They don’t know what they want yet, but they know it when they see it (even though in most cases what you see isn’t what’s real) 2.      They are just looking for someone to chill with, nothing too serious. (Ok seriously? I can chill at home alone. I don’t need a partner for that) 3.      They are a serial online dater, looking for the next nice nightly hookup (Eww! That’s all I got for that one) 4.      They are looking for a well-established woman to “build” with as they come up in their vision (reality is they don’t really know what their vision is and you having one helps him look good until he figures it out) 5.      They are in a committed relationship (wife or courtship) but it just isn’t doing it for them completely. You understand them and they want to be friends. Totally innocent and platonic. They just need someone to help them work through the relationship difficulties (ok so this isn’t even dating, but I can’t tell you how many times during girlfriend convo’s I hear about this type of snare) I could go on and on with these scenarios but they all end with the same theme…a D.U.D! So how do you avoid them? Well to be honest I haven’t found that you can avoid them, the right question to ask is how to handle them when they arise. Here are some ways I decipher and dispose of a D.U.D. Be upfront about who you are and what you’re about women standing strong From the way you position yourself physically by way of your posture, facial expressions, clothing style, and even your vernacular, they all tell a story about who you are. Do your best to make sure the story you’re telling through these different means lines up with who you are inside. It all matters! Be who you are not what you think one wants to see. Be nice nasty when it’s needed…  jennifer anniston smirk This one is my fav! Only because I get to be classy but still sassy and throw them off all at the same time! Ha! Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t get enjoyment off of being mean. But there is a time when one takes your kind heart or kind way of telling them no as a challenge to try again, and THAT is where the nice nasty trick comes in handy. When a person keeps trying to get their agenda accomplished with you after it has been clearly laid out that it’s not going to happen, then you give them the nice nasty. The nice nasty is a simple way to make your intent clear but with an added “I’m not kidding, stop!” tone to it. You can say things like “So you’re just going to keep at it after I’ve already told you huh? That’s not smart.” Then smirk. Or “See I know you have sense, I’ve witnessed it. So I’m going to reiterate what I said just encase you weren’t clear. Umm K?” (Insert smirk). Are you getting the point now? It’s a tough toned sentence with the body posture that’s pleasant. It’s being sarcastic with style. beyonce strut Just walk away and leave them where they lay! A person can only be so nice for so long. You can only have so many conversations and flip no so many types of ways. What you will end up doing is keeping yourself in their endless cycle of “chase” that you’re not trying to be a part of if you don’t just stop interacting and walk away. The key to getting a behavior to stop is to not encourage it. Stop answering their calls or responding to their text messages. Stop smiling when they try and talk to you about keeping that thing they call a “relationship” or “dating” going. Put it all to a halt! They will get it and move on to the next possible victim (and I hope they get smart and do the same as you). Now if this guy just keeps trying with you…well that’s another topic that will have to be addressed for the future (It’s called Craaazyyyy!!). For now, when dealing with DUD’s try to remember you attract what you are and if you don’t want what you attract, check what you’re placing out there and change it. Much Love Stay Resilient Pursue Passions and Be Intentional In All That You Do! Cole

We live in a world where everyone has to be known for something or by someone. We hear things like who are you wearing?, Who are you here with?, What do you do?, or even How did you get to be you? In this world, one is more recognizable through the channels in which they associate, rather than the deeds they have accomplished. These days a celebrity is nothing more than an individual comprised of many identities they have accumulated over time. Is this healthy? No. Will it get you where you want to be? Temporarily yes, long-term No. In the world of social media, the promoter of instant gratification mayhem of masks, you really have to dig deep and do a true analysis on some people to know what you’re connecting to. Now when I say who you are connecting to, this applies to friends, associates, life partners or those being considered for one of the categories mentioned. In the ever changing digital age, we must spend more time knowing WHO the person is versus WHAT they present themselves to be. So how do you know? How can you truly see the inner most makings of a person? How can you decipher what is real versus what is fake? The answer is much easier than you think and is plain as can be. You must be observant. Yep! I said the obvious, be observant. Now as simple as the word is, the error most of us make is we don’t know what to observe. We often try to look at too many things and we miss what is looking us straight in our face. You have to develop a childlike type view when dealing with new people as well as the ones who are currently in your life. To be childlike is to view a person without any excuses associated. When they behave a certain way or say a thing, you take it for what it is. You do not start to analyze nor reason with what happened you just accept it. As you continue your quest to chase true identities and live in truth, try these tactics to uncover what is real: The Imitator – They try on many identities searching for their own. They follow people they think are highly admired and then begin to learn and take on their characteristics so they too can be well liked and accepted. They cannot commit long to anything and if they do it is because of the attention it gives them and the celebrity type status it affords them. This individual will go to great lengths to gain attention and acknowledgement. From posting every move they make on Facebook and Instagram, to even damaging another’s reputation for the sake of making themselves look good. There are no limits to satisfying their urge to be the IT person. They are fun to be around but not the most trustworthy to confide in. Life can be light and carefree with them just take much of what they do and say for face value. The Cyclist – Deja Vu will be felt a lot in the company of this individual for they are very predictable. They carry both good and bad habits that will be seen time and time again with no signs of change. Because of their destruction behavior, you will want to try to help them; but no matter what you do no matter how much they say they appreciate you and want to change, they end up repeating the same cycles. This type of individual can frustrate the mess out of you and drain all your energy if you’re not careful. The best way to handle them is to listen when needed, offer no advice voluntarily and guard your heart by not becoming to attached to them. You have to take a take them or leave them approach until true cycles are broken in their life. This person means no harm they just have not gained enough courage to grow and live beyond their comfort zone and for the goal-oriented type its a poorly matched relationship. The Influencer – A giver of self in all facets. A person who devotes their time, their skills, their knowledge essentially their life for the greater good. The characteristics of this individual is of sound moral values and a walk of great integrity, They are admired by many and inspite of much attention and adoration they are the most humble beings you could ever encounter. You will tend to see a strong faith based core about them and a joy that is unspeakable. It almost appears that nothing could bother them. Even on their worst day they still give a smile and an encouraging word to lift ones day. They are pastor’s, leaders in corporations, pillars of their families and the one everyone seems to go to for sound advice. You gain much wisdom from this type of person and they make you feel as though there is nothing you can’t overcome and push you to be your best. An ideal friend and partner for life. The Manipulator – The beast of all beast in character traits and con artist extraordinaire. They take and take with no regard of how it affects anyone but themselves. This individual comprises all the other character traits listed earlier into one. A multi-talented persona that can will almost anything into existence by learning what makes you tick and using it against you. The strength of this type of person is they know how to befriend many with great charisma and style. It is effortless for them to appear as one thing when truly they are another. An actor at its best putting on an Oscar winning performance. Telling them your deepest darkest fears or dreams is a deadly trap for their prey. For once they have you, its hell to get out of their grips. Blackmail is a major tool in their tool belt. The way to know you are dealing with a manipulator is by watching how they over compliment you and under value others that are around you. If they always “seem” to be so much like you or have so much in common with you or always agree with you with very little opposing thoughts, you just may have a manipulator on your hands. Nothing good comes from being associated with them. Your time with them will always be limited for you only have a purpose in life momentarily until the next best thing comes along to replace you. For your peace of mind and overall health in life period, I advise you to steer clear! As you continue to build healthy peaceful relationships, always remember to see past the masks and look deeper. Don’t identify yourself through other people, identify the self in the people. Much Love Cole